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Remember, to say, ’yes,’ to the things you don’t prefer doing is to say, ‘no,’ to your peace of mind.
By saying yes too often we began to feel resentful that we have so much to do. There are possibilities of getting ourselves into deep mess just because we feel guilty to say no. Saying no without guilt is not selfish. For many of us ‘no’ is the most difficult word to say, but if that’s what is needed you need to make friends with this little word.
There are times when we just can’t say ‘no’ and many other times when we simply want to say ‘yes.’ The bottom line is to use our wisdom and decide when to say ‘yes’ and when to say ‘no.’
For example, you’ve been waiting for that Saturday, to go out with your loved one, a day to leave everything else behind. Your boss wants you to work on that particular day when he can always give somebody else the same responsibility. In such cases learn to say no. Of course, if it’s something only you can do than you need think twice. Otherwise just say ‘no.’ How you deliver it depends on who you are dealing with. You can even suggest an alternative by requesting a colleague to do it.
Most of us refuse to say ‘no’ because we worry that we might:
- cause offense to someone in position of power,
- hurt someone whom we love
- look incompetent
- feel guilty
You have to understand that you have the right to refuse a request just as anyone else. People will accept and respect you as a person and as a result your confidence and efficiency grows! It means that you can do things which will have a greater impact - no nonsense.
Remember, saying ‘no’ can win us many friends as ‘yes,’ provided we do it with skill and sensitivity.
You rather say an honest ‘no ‘than a hidden ‘yes’ when you just not ready to do something. There are many instances when it’s perfectly fine to say no. You get the full benefit of agreeing to something only when you disagree from time to time.
If you belong to that category, who feel too much of our time is being taken up by other people, the obvious solution is; say no.
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